There are so many things to learn in your 20s that no self-help book can explain to you. My mother calls these years “stepping stones” because really, that’s what they are.
While scrolling through Pinterest the other day, I saw a quote that said, “You can’t compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 20.” Every day is a new chance to start over, but it’s also an opportunity to let go. We can let go of things that cause anxiety, stress and pain and replace those things with what makes us feel renewed, happy and spiritually free. This year, I have goals to accomplish and dreams to achieve, but before I can push forward, I need to let go of things holding me back. Here is a list of truths that will allow you to let go and move toward the highest version of yourself:
1. Forgiveness is key.
Everyone has their moments when they act without thinking, or they say something out of anger. Words can be taken out of context or voiced in such a vehement manner that sometimes it is almost too hard to forgive. In order to move on, however, you must realize forgiving someone is much easier than holding a grudge.
2. Even though it hurts now, it can be good to say goodbye.
For months, I held out for this one guy who never gave me the time of day. I wanted him to realize what he was missing, but it never worked out that way. I made the resolution to cut him out for good. I wanted him to fight for my attention, but then I realized that would never happen. So, it was better for me to say goodbye. You should do the same. Don’t keep someone in your life just to continually get ignored.
3. Your time and attention are valuable entities.
Sometimes, I give people who do not deserve my time or attention both of those things. But, I have come to realize I’m allowed to pick and choose whom I give those entities to.
My time is precious, and not everyone deserves it. My attention is even more valuable. The same goes for you. If you’re in an unbalanced relationship with someone who is getting all of your energy and giving nothing back, cut them out of your life.